Thursday 8 August 02:58 PM
yesterday a boy was staring at me in the store (pretty typical) & the mom says, "you wish you were in one of those, don't you?"
now, i am completely 100% aware that she was trying to be playful or make what she thought was a harmless, funny comment.
comments like these can be harmful, especially towards a kid who doesn't really know much about disabilities yet. essentially what she's saying to her son is, "don't you wish you had some sort of condition that necessitates that you use a wheelchair for the rest of your life?"
that's the only reason you'd be out in public in a wheelchair, not just for fun.
i know that most people don't want a neuromuscular disability. someone last week told me that it was horrible & he'd never be able to do it, so i know that most people don't want one. that's why comments like these aren't funny. i know people are trying to be funny, but i'm just here to tell you that they aren't.
i know that society doesn't always know how to react around disabled people or even just people that are different from them in general. instead of making "silly" comments about my wheelchair, just talk to me as if i'm a person. ask me questions about my disability (preferably in a respectful manner, but asking is better than assuming). this can apply to any disability or disorder, but i'm just speaking from personal experience. think about how your comments might affect others.
i like conversation. don't assume that you have to make a joke or comment about my wheelchair in order to talk to me. if you want to know about it, just ask.
whether you're joking or not, please don't tell someone that you wish you were in a wheelchair. you're teaching children false thinking, & you don't know what you'd be signing up for. be careful what you wish for 😉
happy #smaawarenessmonth 🎗️